A Challenge To Go Beyond Your Limiting Beliefs

Uncategorized Dec 01, 2020
 
What we know is possible is based on our experiences. If you have never done it, then you don’t know if it is possible for you. But, our beliefs about what is possible are formed by not only by our experiences, but also our education and our knowledge.
 
We can change what we believe is possible by broadening our horizons, looking at what others have done and then assessing whether we think those things would be possible for us, and that is where limiting beliefs come in. 
 
What we believe about ourselves has tremendous power over us. Our beliefs can both encourage us and can hold us back. The small internal voice that says ‘you can do it’ or ‘don’t be silly, you can’t do that’ affects decisions we make on a daily basis.
 
May I encourage you  today to challenge your limiting beliefs and go beyond them?
 
Ok, but how? you ask.
 
Education and knowledge!
 
Education, can show you that...
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The sweaty day...

Have you ever had an experience where other people believed in you more than you believed in yourself? 

 

Maybe it was a friend, a parent or a coach. Do you remember learning to ride a bike, it wasn’t easy at first, but the people around you supported you and guided you until you got it. 

 

As an adult have you had a situation where someone else had more confidence in your abilities than you did? 

 

For me it was a very sweaty day...

 

Let me tell you a bit about the lead up. It was back in the days of film photography so you didn’t get the instant gratification and you didn't know if you had the best shots.

 

I was 21, photography was a hobby but I couldn’t afford a good camera. I had a friend who had an amazing camera and I borrowed it a couple of times to do formal ball photos for the youth group at my church. 

 

After a couple of years of doing the yearly ball photos, one of the couples in the church got engaged...

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Walk a mile in someone else’s shoes

Uncategorized Mar 17, 2020

In my first year out of high school I had a friend say to me ‘I couldn’t live your life’. I was what you may call a bit of a square. Although not top of my class, I worked hard. I went to church every Sunday and I didn’t do drugs or drink alcohol. To many, my life looked rather peachy. He on the other hand had faced many challenges. His brother was addicted to drugs and in trouble with the law. He was more of a bad boy and owned his role in the school as such. Why would he say that he couldn’t live my life? His answer was simple, he said; ‘I have had the experiences that have given me the skills to deal with what I face on a daily basis. I know how to react. I know how to play my role. I have the coping strategies to deal with my life. Your life however is totally foreign to me. I would not be able to cope being called a square, or dealing with what you deal with.’  

I think that far too often we minimise our own life experiences and...

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Book Review - 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Stephen Covey

Uncategorized Jan 28, 2020

Stephen Covey’s book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, although first published in 1990, is absolutely relevant in 2020 and beyond. The 7 Habits are as important and just as effective in today’s online digital world as they were when they were first written. There is a good reason that this book is one of the great business and personal development books of the past 50 years.

Essentially the book challenges us to consider how we make assumptions about people and situations and by using the 7 Habits we can make better, more informed decisions.

Put simply, the book is about a ‘paradigm shift’ in our own thoughts.

 

“Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits.” “Habits … are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character and produce our effectiveness … or our ineffectiveness.” Page 46

Covey defines habits as the intersection of 3 parts; knowledge, skill and desire....

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Book Review - Persuasion by Dave Lakhani

Uncategorized Oct 14, 2019

Persuasion – Dave Lakhani:

The act of persuading often gets a bad wrap. Persuasion can be seen as manipulation. Images of greasy second hand car salesmen trying to pass of the ‘deal of the century’. Dave Lakhani starts his book by saying that ‘virtually every element of human interaction involves some level of persuasion’. To survive we must persuade. As a baby we use crying to tell our parents that we need something. As children we learn different techniques to get our own way and then prefect those techniques as adults.

If we look at persuasion as just a negative thing then we are doing ourselves a disservice.

David Lakhani starts out by identifying that manipulation is solely for the benefit of the manipulator. Where as persuasion is about creating an environment that lets two or more people find common ground and belief.

In regards to the art of persuasion, being likeable gives you a huge head start. Building a relationship based on what you have in...

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Take The Time to Wonder

personal development Jun 11, 2019

Have you ever stopped and watched a small child at play? Have you watched the wonder in their eyes as they explore the world? How about how their little fingers when they explore things, how they hold and touch objects it in different ways? Have you watched how they listen and how their eyes light up when you sing to them or talk to them?

Children experience our world in a different way to adults. Everything is new, exciting, and stimulating. They learn at such a rapid rate and want to know about the world around them and how it functions. Unfortunately, us adults can sometimes have tunnel vision. We become so focused on one thing – the to-do list. We rush from work to home, worrying about all the things we have to do. We become vacant and consumed by the task at hand, or the worries in our minds. We become closed off to the world and new experiences or curiosities.

 Why does a four year old ask so many questions? They are intrigued and curious about the world. They want...

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The Small Business Owners Badge of Busyness

busyness May 13, 2019
Over Easter I was doing some chores and the had the small business TV program, Koshie’s Business Builders on in the background. At the end of the show they interviewed a number of small business owners and asked them what the biggest challenge was in their business. All of them said; ‘time’. One said; ‘working too many hours’, another said; ‘switching off between work and home’. Then the program ended. They had just surveyed a number of the business owners who had been featured in the show, and they all identified the same issue, the biggest problem they faced in business and the program did not offer a solution. 

It is almost a badge of honour that business owners and entrepreneurs have to wear. To be successful we have to strive, to work more than everyone else. Put ourselves (and our families) last. As a small business owner for the last 15 years, I worked too much, and thought too much about work after hours, UNTIL… I...

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Why I was so certian working with my business coach would lead to my success.

business coach life coach May 07, 2019

Earlier this year I began coaching a client who was just starting out business. She was right at the very beginning. She had done a few photo shoots and got paid a little bit, but wanted to make her hobby a real business. We sat down and made a plan for her business growth for the next 12 months. I asked her how many clients (realistically) she wanted to be seeing per month by the following Christmas. Then we created a plan to work backwards to achieve milestones along the way. The first month was dedicated to learning, the second month dedicated to setting up the structures, registering business names, creating systems etc. On the third month she would see her first paying clients.

We had been working together for a about six weeks when she started to feel nervous about business in general. She asked me how I had so much confidence to invest a lot of money in my business coach all those years ago. My answer was simple. I found someone that had been there and done that. Someone who...

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Extrinsic and Intrinsic Motivation

What motivates you? Are you motivated extrinsically or intrinsically?

Extrinsic motivation means that the payoff or reward for doing something is going to come from outside of you. This might apply to working in your job for pay, receiving that sales commission for hitting monthly targets, or a child cleaning their room for a sticker.

Intrinsic motivation means that the payoff or reward will be generated within you. This might be that you pay for the coffee for the next person in line to do something nice, you take an extra course because you value education, or leave a note on the car you just dinged – because it is the right thing to do!

Here is an example of how motivations can vary. Your first job might have been to pump gas at the gas station. For those of us who are a little younger, back in the day you would drive up to the service station and the attendant would ask you how much petrol you would like, and they would put the petrol in for you while you sat in your car....

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Book review - High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard

High Performance Habits is a powerhouse of a book that blows current theories out of the water about what a person needs to get to the top and stay there. Many times, we chalk up our failures to factors such as age, education, income, race, nationality, or gender. However, the science proves otherwise. So how does a person be successful, lead a healthy and fulfilling life, and stay ahead of the game? Does one have to choose between success and money, and love and health?

 

Brendon Burchard and his team at The High Performance Institute have conducted an extensive study (with over 172,000 people) on what attributes and habits a person needs to develop in order to achieve their goals and sustain a fulfilling, high-quality life. Many of the activities in the book are easily implementable, while others will take practise and a major change in habits. Many of my preconceptions about success were shattered such as the old adage “Stick to your strengths.” If we do not work...

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