Have you ever had an experience where other people believed in you more than you believed in yourself?
Maybe it was a friend, a parent or a coach. Do you remember learning to ride a bike, it wasn’t easy at first, but the people around you supported you and guided you until you got it.
As an adult have you had a situation where someone else had more confidence in your abilities than you did?
For me it was a very sweaty day...
Let me tell you a bit about the lead up. It was back in the days of film photography so you didn’t get the instant gratification and you didn't know if you had the best shots.
I was 21, photography was a hobby but I couldn’t afford a good camera. I had a friend who had an amazing camera and I borrowed it a couple of times to do formal ball photos for the youth group at my church.
After a couple of years of doing the yearly ball photos, one of the couples in the church got engaged...
Have you ever stopped and watched a small child at play? Have you watched the wonder in their eyes as they explore the world? How about how their little fingers when they explore things, how they hold and touch objects it in different ways? Have you watched how they listen and how their eyes light up when you sing to them or talk to them?
Children experience our world in a different way to adults. Everything is new, exciting, and stimulating. They learn at such a rapid rate and want to know about the world around them and how it functions. Unfortunately, us adults can sometimes have tunnel vision. We become so focused on one thing – the to-do list. We rush from work to home, worrying about all the things we have to do. We become vacant and consumed by the task at hand, or the worries in our minds. We become closed off to the world and new experiences or curiosities.
Why does a four year old ask so many questions? They are intrigued and curious about the world. They want...
What motivates you? Are you motivated extrinsically or intrinsically?
Extrinsic motivation means that the payoff or reward for doing something is going to come from outside of you. This might apply to working in your job for pay, receiving that sales commission for hitting monthly targets, or a child cleaning their room for a sticker.
Intrinsic motivation means that the payoff or reward will be generated within you. This might be that you pay for the coffee for the next person in line to do something nice, you take an extra course because you value education, or leave a note on the car you just dinged – because it is the right thing to do!
Here is an example of how motivations can vary. Your first job might have been to pump gas at the gas station. For those of us who are a little younger, back in the day you would drive up to the service station and the attendant would ask you how much petrol you would like, and they would put the petrol in for you while you sat in your car....
We often want to make changes in our life for the better, but sometimes those changes can make quite an overwhelming list! Quite often, we need to change our habits, which is not easy when we’ve been doing something a certain way for a while.
One easy way of developing yourself is to give yourself a monthly focus, just one thing, that you can identify or work on and improve for a month. Obviously there are 12 months in a year, so 12 different areas of your life that you develop this year.
Think about what character traits or habits you would like to work on in the next 30 days. Some suggestions might be generosity, kindness, patience, saying no, or making time for family. Write your focus somewhere where it will serve as a daily reminder such as the calendar, your diary, a journal, or even a post-it on your bathroom mirror.
Tom Ziglar, son of the famous Zig Ziglar says that “The fastest way to success is to replace bad habits with good habits.” Plan what you...